Today we had some major progress! Not like we hadn't the past few days. But today is something to really jump up and down for! I can't say it enough. Khloe is doing amazing. She was definitely ready to start this. We have tried this several times prior and only lasted a few days and then stopping as it was apparent she was not ready or interested. I do not agree with pushing this on a small child. And, truthfully I didn't want to waste my time pushing her on something she didn't want. Some parent's are so eager to get their child out of diapers that they start before the child can really verbalize or even pull their pants up and down by themselves. They spend week's upon week's upon month's trying to get their child to understand. I was not willing to do that. Plus that much pressure on a small child doesn't seem fair to me. I can't tell you how many people would try and make me feel bad that she was not yet potty trained. From the time she turned 2! Looking back it makes me angry. How dare they?! And I feel ashamed as I let them make me feel bad. They made me feel like I was lazy, or a bad mother, for not making her.
How do I know she was ready for this? Well we have only been at this for 5 days. We haven't seen an accident since Monday (Day 1). Today Khloe woke up at 6:00AM and her diaper was dry. She said she wanted to lay down and watch cartoons for a bit. So I let her and I didn't make her go to the bathroom. About an hour later she comes in and TELLS me she needs to go. Awesome!!! From there I really backed off today. I didn't stay on top of her like I had the last few days, asking her every so often if she needed to use the potty. She would come to me and TELL me she needed to go. Awesome!!! We even ventured out to go grocery shopping today. What did she do when we were at the very back of the store at the furthest point away from the bathrooms? She TELLS me she needs to go potty. Awesome!!! And these are the reasons I want to jump up and down!
I am by no means saying she is done and is completely potty trained. She's not. I'm sure we will still see accidents. She still has a long ways to go. So I will still be staying on top of her. Also, we still have to work on getting her out of diapers for nap time and night time. That will come in time.
I had prepared myself for this to be a very messy and daunting experience. I completely believe waiting until the child is ready makes this process fun (well as fun as using the potty can be) and not nearly as horrible as I was expecting. I'm excited to see what tomorrow brings!
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Friday, May 17, 2013
Potty Training - Day 4
I missed updating yesterday. Once I got Khloe in bed I 100% forgot. Apparently my brain just needed a rest.
In the past when trying to potty train, Khloe would not go anywhere near the big potty. At least if it didn't have her smaller potty seat attached. She was terrified of falling in. I had tried holding her up and even tried turning her around per some advice I had received. It wasn't a big deal when we were home. The problem would arise if we were out and about and she decided she wanted to use the potty. She would cry and say no as soon as she saw the big potty.
Well since we are really going through the potty training and we aren't stopping this time I decided I should probably do my best to expose her to the big potty while at home, along with allowing her to still use her seat as well. At first she was completely against it. However, after a few prompts and promising her I wouldn't let her fall in she agreed. She did fantastic.
Other than that the day was pretty much like day 3. No accidents!
In the past when trying to potty train, Khloe would not go anywhere near the big potty. At least if it didn't have her smaller potty seat attached. She was terrified of falling in. I had tried holding her up and even tried turning her around per some advice I had received. It wasn't a big deal when we were home. The problem would arise if we were out and about and she decided she wanted to use the potty. She would cry and say no as soon as she saw the big potty.
Well since we are really going through the potty training and we aren't stopping this time I decided I should probably do my best to expose her to the big potty while at home, along with allowing her to still use her seat as well. At first she was completely against it. However, after a few prompts and promising her I wouldn't let her fall in she agreed. She did fantastic.
Other than that the day was pretty much like day 3. No accidents!
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Potty Training - Day 3
We made it though another day with no accidents!
I am noticing that Khloe is also spending less time in the bathroom each time we go. The first day she would sit on the potty for 10-15 minutes. She would sit there and want to play instead of concentrating on using the potty. I won't lie. It was frustrating.
It seems like she is really starting to understand. Today we were in an out in a few minutes each time. She knows that potty time is not time for toys, playing and being silly.
Each day I see her making more and more progress and its only day 3! Looking forward to tomorrow!
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Potty Training - Day 2
To my total surprise, today was a complete success. Khloe did amazing and we didn't have any accidents!
She seems to be able to tell me she needs to go #2. However, with #1 we have to remind her. I'm not sure if we aren't waiting long enough to remind her so that she really feels the sensation of needing to go. Maybe it's just simply something that will come in time. Or perhaps a bit of both. All I do know is that this is a learning experience for the both of us, and I think we are doing pretty dang good!
I did a bit of reading online and found that children get irritated with constantly being asked if they need to go to the bathroom. Seems like common sense, right? Well apparently not for me! When we originally started training yesterday I was taking her in every 45 minutes to an hour, and we weren't getting a ton of results. Khloe started to resist. I'm sure she was frustrated and I feel terrible about that! So today, I took the advice from online and stopped bugging her so much. I started reminding her every hour and a half to two hours. We saw so much more success! I think that is what we will continue on doing for now.
We are looking forward to day three and can just hope that the success continues!
She seems to be able to tell me she needs to go #2. However, with #1 we have to remind her. I'm not sure if we aren't waiting long enough to remind her so that she really feels the sensation of needing to go. Maybe it's just simply something that will come in time. Or perhaps a bit of both. All I do know is that this is a learning experience for the both of us, and I think we are doing pretty dang good!
I did a bit of reading online and found that children get irritated with constantly being asked if they need to go to the bathroom. Seems like common sense, right? Well apparently not for me! When we originally started training yesterday I was taking her in every 45 minutes to an hour, and we weren't getting a ton of results. Khloe started to resist. I'm sure she was frustrated and I feel terrible about that! So today, I took the advice from online and stopped bugging her so much. I started reminding her every hour and a half to two hours. We saw so much more success! I think that is what we will continue on doing for now.
We are looking forward to day three and can just hope that the success continues!
Monday, May 13, 2013
Potty Training - Day 1
Khloe has yet to potty train. We have tried a few times before but it became more of a fight than anything so I always backed off. I have read a child will potty train when they are ready. I have also read that it takes time and is hard. So, which is it? Wait for her to tell me? Or start and don’t stop or give up when I know she can do it? I will not allow her to be lazy. I will not teach or enable her to be like that. If I know she is ready for something I will encourage her until she has the confidence she needs.
I know she is capable of doing it. Once in awhile (on her terms) she will tell me she needs to go #1. She will also run off and hide when she goes #2, and will then come to me and tell me she is poopy. This child is stubborn.
So with that, we are giving it another try. And this time I do not plan on giving up. She is ready. She just likes to be in control. She is also as the age where she is defiant! Anything I say, she argues. Oh boy…. This is going to be fun :)
This past weekend we kept talking to her about when Monday comes we are going to start potty training! We took her the store where she got to pick out her new big girl undies. We also went and picked out a treat. Every time she goes #1 she will get 3 M&M’s. When she goes #2 she will get 5! She was so excited this weekend…. And then this morning came. First thing I said is "It’s Monday! Let’s go sit on the potty really quick and then we will get your big girl undies on".
Cries, fits, kicking, screaming. That is how today started. I'm not going to lie, I was immediately discouraged. But we kept with it. And to my surprise today went SO much better than I originally thought! We had a few accidents earlier in the day, both before nap time. I think we were both trying to find out how this would work. I'm not saying we have it figured out. But I think we will get there.
I was also very surprised she was able to stay dry through nap time. If I start seeing that consistently over the next little bit we will keep her in undies through nap time and will then work towards nighttime. And the best part of today? She went #2 in the potty! A few setbacks, but ultimately I call today a SUCCESS!
Fingers crossed that the next few days get easier and we continue to progress.
I know she is capable of doing it. Once in awhile (on her terms) she will tell me she needs to go #1. She will also run off and hide when she goes #2, and will then come to me and tell me she is poopy. This child is stubborn.
So with that, we are giving it another try. And this time I do not plan on giving up. She is ready. She just likes to be in control. She is also as the age where she is defiant! Anything I say, she argues. Oh boy…. This is going to be fun :)
This past weekend we kept talking to her about when Monday comes we are going to start potty training! We took her the store where she got to pick out her new big girl undies. We also went and picked out a treat. Every time she goes #1 she will get 3 M&M’s. When she goes #2 she will get 5! She was so excited this weekend…. And then this morning came. First thing I said is "It’s Monday! Let’s go sit on the potty really quick and then we will get your big girl undies on".
Cries, fits, kicking, screaming. That is how today started. I'm not going to lie, I was immediately discouraged. But we kept with it. And to my surprise today went SO much better than I originally thought! We had a few accidents earlier in the day, both before nap time. I think we were both trying to find out how this would work. I'm not saying we have it figured out. But I think we will get there.
I was also very surprised she was able to stay dry through nap time. If I start seeing that consistently over the next little bit we will keep her in undies through nap time and will then work towards nighttime. And the best part of today? She went #2 in the potty! A few setbacks, but ultimately I call today a SUCCESS!
Fingers crossed that the next few days get easier and we continue to progress.
The Big Move
Several months back Dewey and I started talking about possibly making a move to a new state. We wanted a place that has a more diverse population and a more diverse culture. This is what we wanted for our family. Both Dewey and I grew up as non-LDS in Utah. It was hard. The majority of the state is LDS. As a child I remember having friends one minute and the next they were not allowed to play with me as I was not LDS. As a married adult living in Utah County I would drive down my neighborhood street and wave and there would be LDS women who wouldn’t even acknowledge me. Now I do want to say this isn’t the whole religion. I know that. But it has happened enough to me that and I didn’t want our children to go through this same thing. Dewey feels the same way.
Anyway, Dewey’s position at the company he was with was coming to end due to contract and the plant closing. After putting several resumes around Utah and several in other states he received and accepted an offer for a position with a CAT dealer in Aurora Colorado. We were able to work it out with my company that I would be able to work remote from our home in Colorado.
Once everything fell into place with Dewey’s work and my work things moved quickly. We had to come out here and find a rental with only 2 weeks before our big move. I was completely against buying. I wanted to first get out here and determine this was the place for us and then from there decide on an area that would be what we needed and wanted. We decided on a rental in Thornton. It’s cute enough. We just aren’t the renting type. We like to have the freedom to do as we please to the property. But this will work for now.
I have adjusted better than I had expected to. Dewey is having a rougher time. I think he realized what we did have in Utah, in regards with family being close by. He has never been the "family" type. I mean he loves our families. But when it came to family parties he was more the "Lets make a quick appearance and be out" type. I think that has changed with this move. He is really missing everybody.
The plan from the very beginning has been – We will go out there. If it’s for us, great. If it is not for us we will go back to Utah. We’ll give it a year.
So that’s what we are doing. That is where we are at. We will see what the future holds.
Anyway, Dewey’s position at the company he was with was coming to end due to contract and the plant closing. After putting several resumes around Utah and several in other states he received and accepted an offer for a position with a CAT dealer in Aurora Colorado. We were able to work it out with my company that I would be able to work remote from our home in Colorado.
Once everything fell into place with Dewey’s work and my work things moved quickly. We had to come out here and find a rental with only 2 weeks before our big move. I was completely against buying. I wanted to first get out here and determine this was the place for us and then from there decide on an area that would be what we needed and wanted. We decided on a rental in Thornton. It’s cute enough. We just aren’t the renting type. We like to have the freedom to do as we please to the property. But this will work for now.
I have adjusted better than I had expected to. Dewey is having a rougher time. I think he realized what we did have in Utah, in regards with family being close by. He has never been the "family" type. I mean he loves our families. But when it came to family parties he was more the "Lets make a quick appearance and be out" type. I think that has changed with this move. He is really missing everybody.
The plan from the very beginning has been – We will go out there. If it’s for us, great. If it is not for us we will go back to Utah. We’ll give it a year.
So that’s what we are doing. That is where we are at. We will see what the future holds.
AND IT'S A....
GIRL!
Yep, Khloe is going to have a little sister! She is SO excited! And I am SO excited because she is SO excited! Even better news? Baby appears to be completely healthy and is growing right on track. I have been feeling so much better. The nausea has all but disappeared, which has been great! I have started developing some acid reflex. And I am starting to get achy hips during the night. But truthfully, I will take either of these things over the constant feeling of nausea I did have a few month back.
With our recent move (Post coming up) I did need to find a new hospital to deliver at and a new OB. I think that was the most stressful part of this entire move for me. You get to know your OB and develop such a trust with them. When you leave in the middle of a pregnancy it is hard. Really hard.
When we got out here to Colorado I immediately used Google to start looking at the different hospitals and compared ratings. I did the same thing with the OB’s. Ultimately, I decided on Boulder Foothills to deliver at. They had the best ratings. And with only a few months left I was worried about trying to find the OB first. The nurses and the hospital staff are really who are with you through most of the labor and delivery with the OB only coming in at the end. I felt better about finding a good hospital I could trust over trying to develop a relationship with an OB with the limited time left. But, turns out I got lucky! When I found the hospital I reviewed their OB’s and went with one with the highest ratings. And I love her. She is amazing. And kind. And really seemed to care! She actually came in and talked to me. Not about the pregnancy, but about who I am. She wanted to get to know me! Awesome! And a complete relief!
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